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Just so everyone is aware, there is a bunch of misleading info being spread around re: ALS research - the “27%” figure is based on previous years’ annual funding; furthermore, the remainder goes to improving the quality of life of those suffering from ALS. Given that the annual funding is approximately 16M, that’s just over 4M spent on decreasing their suffering. It isn’t greed, it’s a lack of money.”

Shut up already.

The ALS Association has a 4-star rating from Charity Watchdog. 

And the next time you start to complain about a charity either a) working on multiple fronts (because that’s what ALSA does—both seeking a cure and helping people suffering now) or b) daring to have administration expenses—let’s see how long you can last, much less tackle a cause, without printer paper and an internet connection. 

As someone who has watched a family member die from a neuro-degenerative disease; funding to develop better wheelchairs and bedsore creams is *just* as important as funding research to cure the disease itself…

A friend of mine posted an update from one of HER friends to FB earlier.  Her dad has ALS.  The ALS foundation came out to see if they could put in a ramp for his wheelchair, but they couldn’t afford it because of the kind of ramp he needed for the kind of house they had.

This week they called back and said hey, the thing is, we suddenly have a bunch of money, so we’re coming out to build that ramp.  And they did.  She posted pics.

So if you feel like bitching about the ice bucket challenge…reconsider.

^ That’s really awesome.

I have to say though, I’m glad people are questioning this stuff. Just make sure you have your facts straight before throwing stones.

ask-an-asexual:

A quick guide on how to understand asexual people!

An asexual person is someone who does not experience sexual attraction. However, there are some asexuals who can feel sexually attracted to someone under very specific circumstances and/or very rarely. They include, but are not limited to; demi-sexuals and grey-asexuals. 

While asexuals don’t experience any sexual attraction, they can feel romantic attraction. There are just as many romantic orientations as sexual orientations. A few examples are homo-romantic, demi-romantic, a-romantic and pan-romantic. Asexuals can want romantic relationships that may or may not include sexual activities. 

Being asexual is not the same thing as being celibate.

Asexuality is not a choice, just like ever other sexuality; while Celibacy is making the distinct choice of not having sex, usually despite being sexually attracted to people. On a related note, not all asexuals are celibate. 

An asexual is not going to “change”!

Someone who is born asexual is just as likely or unlikely to “change” as someone who is born heterosexual or homosexual. Sexuality is a fluid thing, and quite a few people experience change through their lifetime. However, assuming that an asexual person can be “fixed” by meeting the “right person” is not only wrong, but deeply insulting.

Asexuality is not a disorder!

You cannot choose your sexuality. Just like every other sexuality out there, asexuals are born that way and have no choice in the matter. Most asexuals are perfectly happy being the way they are, and insinuating anything else is plain rude.

Asexuality does not mean an aversion to touching!

Just like every other group of people, asexuals are individuals. some like to hug, some would rather you didn’t touch them at all. Some don’t mind, or even like, having sex; while others are sex repulsed (sometimes to the point of feeling physically ill just thinking about it). If you are uncertain about what a specific person is ok with, you should ask them. 

Most asexuals have not been sexually abused!

As wikiHow sums it up;

"There is no known cause for being asexual, just as there is no known cause for any other sexual orientations."

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My opinion on demisexuality..

broskibro:

variladaine:

broskibro:

a-cis-anti-feminist:

I think it is a pathetic attempt, at best, to try and include yourself in a minority. (Like the post I previously reblogged touched on.)

There is a fucking term for everything now. Like I’m only sexually attracted to people who drink coffee. What can I call that? Hmm.. Caffesexual!

It is NOT…

As ever, I agree that ‘demisexual’ is not a sexuality but a preference and therefore shouldn’t even a little bit be associated with LGBT+ problems. There’s never been a person in the world who has had actual harassment or oppression from being demisexual. 

However, that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or people should be hated for giving the phenomenon a name. It also doesn’t mean that all of us who identify as demisexual claim to be oppressed. It’s just a way for us to help categorize and understand ourselves. Labels are fine— forcing your label into an issue that doesn’t concern you is the problem.

Well, actually, demisexuality is considered by many to be a subset of asexuality because a person who is demisexual does not automatically experience sexual attraction to people but rather (and that definitely happens for other people, before they’ve even found anything out about a person’s personality), only experience sexual attraction when they have formed an emotional connection to somebody. And there definitely ARE negative repercussions for that.  This is a world that revolves around sexuality; everywhere you look, there are references to sexual things/feelings.  Asexuals, and demisexuals that have not yet experienced sexual attraction, are incredibly alienated by this.  Not to mention, the fact that when they can’t participate in sexual conversations that inevitable happen, they’re seen as weird, abnormal, or are treated in a condescending manner; “you just haven’t experience this yet, but you will.”, 

Not being able to take part in conversations of something, or being surrounded constantly by something you’re not directly a part of, might be annoying but it still isn’t oppression. And, again, demisexuality is a preference. It isn’t lacking the ability to be sexually attracted to someone, and it doesn’t make you attracted to a specific demographic like other sexuality do. It’s just a conditional (one that I, personally, feel very uncomfortable associating with asexuality because to me it sort of implies that all people who are asexual can eventually feel sexual attracted to someone, ~if they find the very right person~, which is, to my understanding, an insulting why to think).

Well, there’s a lot of thought that it isn’t a preference but rather something that can’t be controlled, just like who you are attracted to can’t be controlled.  There’s something called Rabger’s model, which describes primary and secondary attraction.  Primary attraction describes the instant attraction that a person feels when they see somebody/find out a little about them.  Secondary attraction describes the sexual attraction that develops after forming an emotional connection with somebody.  Sexuals experience both types but don’t really notice the secondary one because they have already felt the primary one.  Asexuals don’t experience either.  Demisexuals experience the secondary one.  I’ve spent a long time on the forums on asexuality.org and trust me when I say that demisexuals are very much accepted there and as being under the umbrella of asexuality, because they don’t experience primary sexual attraction.  Also, asexuality (as defined by the people on the website, at least) includes a LOT of different types of people (some people hate sex, some people find sex disturbing/disgusting, some people don’t experience sexual attraction but do experience sexual desire, some people don’t experience sexual attraction but do enjoy the act of sex, some people will spend most of their life not experiencing sexual attraction and then Bam! suddenly they experience sexual attraction with one person)

Also, while not being able to participate in conversations is not oppression, it can (and often does) lead to harassment, especially when you’re an adolescent.  This originates mostly when other teens can’t wrap their head around the idea that one of their peers isn’t interested in sex and will then start to badger them about being liars, or about “what about this person? What about that person?” and as it has been experienced with other groups, being different from your peers can evoke negative reactions.  Additionally, just being made to feel weird and abnormal can be extremely harmful, especially to a young adult.

To summarise; demisexuality is just as uncontrollable as heterosexuality/homosexuality, and the ability to feel attraction to somebody you haven’t met or know little about is considered just as ‘normal’ as being attracted to a member of the opposite sex and therefore, people who do not share that experience can be treated badly, just as people in the gay community are.

My opinion on demisexuality..

broskibro:

a-cis-anti-feminist:

I think it is a pathetic attempt, at best, to try and include yourself in a minority. (Like the post I previously reblogged touched on.)

There is a fucking term for everything now. Like I’m only sexually attracted to people who drink coffee. What can I call that? Hmm.. Caffesexual!

It is NOT…

As ever, I agree that ‘demisexual’ is not a sexuality but a preference and therefore shouldn’t even a little bit be associated with LGBT+ problems. There’s never been a person in the world who has had actual harassment or oppression from being demisexual. 

However, that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or people should be hated for giving the phenomenon a name. It also doesn’t mean that all of us who identify as demisexual claim to be oppressed. It’s just a way for us to help categorize and understand ourselves. Labels are fine— forcing your label into an issue that doesn’t concern you is the problem.

Well, actually, demisexuality is considered by many to be a subset of asexuality because a person who is demisexual does not automatically experience sexual attraction to people but rather (and that definitely happens for other people, before they’ve even found anything out about a person’s personality), only experience sexual attraction when they have formed an emotional connection to somebody. And there definitely ARE negative repercussions for that.  This is a world that revolves around sexuality; everywhere you look, there are references to sexual things/feelings.  Asexuals, and demisexuals that have not yet experienced sexual attraction, are incredibly alienated by this.  Not to mention, the fact that when they can’t participate in sexual conversations that inevitable happen, they’re seen as weird, abnormal, or are treated in a condescending manner; “you just haven’t experience this yet, but you will.”, 

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thornsandwillows:

If you take a young man and woman and they both tell a stranger that they work in the same restaurant, it’s very likely that they will assume that the woman is the waitress, and the young man a cook.

But I thought a…

You’re right. Often times when these things are said, they’re said like they are applicable all the time but it’s entirely possible for things to just be applicable some of the time.

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dajo42:

if you dont have me on facebook you are probably not missing out on any posts but the comment section is important too lmao

I went to the Renaissance faire dressed as a warrior.  I had a real sword with me, too.  I was standing (in character) next to a sword-fighting ring, where kids of all ages got the chance to pick up a sword and challenge the champion.  Some woman walks by, with her little girl.  The girl starts walking towards the ring, saying she wants to fight.  But the mom pulled her away hella sharply, and was like, “That’s for boys.”  You don’t want to be a BOY, do you?”    And the girl looked around and saw me.  I think she thought I was a boy; I had my hair in a ponytail, and was wearing a hood.  So she comes up to me and asks me, “Do you think girls can be fighters, too?”  And her mom looks like she’s silently gloating.  Like she thinks I’m going to say no.  So I take off my hood, untie my hair so that it flows freely, and kneel before her.  And I’m like, “Milady, anyone can be a fighter.”  I swear, the look on that mother’s face made my day.

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